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Another not-great post *sigh*
I think I might have hurt my mum but I'm so confused that I'm not sure so I don't know what to do. 
So, my family is Catholic, all of us. At the beginning of the year my mum started taking us every Sunday to mass because she felt we had been away from God too long (especially my little brothers since they don't even know what to do in mass). So we started going and we actually enjoyed it (I always did, I just didn't have the means to go to church on my own).
One day, my mum asks me if I would help a friend of hers in their group of Christian mudic during an event (I mentioned this on another post, I think). So I said yes to help, the event passed and my mum has insisted and managed to get me to play during Christian services like 5 times. 
I have expressed that I want to attend mass in our Catholic church and she ignored me. So in Sundays it's either going with her to the Christian service or staying home while she attends the service without us (which I consider unfair because neither my brothers nor I can leave to mass on our own).
So my mum decided we would split our Sundays between the services and mass and I agreed because it's better than nothing at all. I told my dad about this agreement and I mentioned if I hadn't agreed she would leave us home to go to the services every week and my dad said we didn't have to do as she said, that he could take us to mass in the afternoon. And I told him "we'll see" because I wanted to discuss the issue with my mum. 
Turns out she overheard our conversation and has been ignoring me since this happened: 
"Hey mum"
"Mum, are you okay? What's wrong?" 
"Nothing, I'm okay." 
"Why are you not talking to me, then? Did something happen?" 
"I just heard what you said to your dad." 
"What did I say?" 
"Nothing. I'm telling you nothing happened".
And she hasn't even glanced at me after that. Now, I guess I said something that hurt her? But I thought I was talking alone to my dad and I could apologize but I really meant what I said. If I apologize or say I didn't mean it, she'll feel free to keep taking us to the services and I don't feel comfortable there. So... Do I wait or do I apologize? What am I supposed to do in this situation? 
Date: 2017-04-19 09:33 am (UTC)

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From: [personal profile] tamarelmensdorp
I'm not religious at all so I'm a bit confused here. Mass is Catholic whereas service is Christian and those are not the same, right?

Anyway, I don’t think this has anything to do with that really. I think she wanted you and your brother to do this together with her and now she feels sad because see feels your father is taking it away from her. Just a guess though.

I think you should stick with the alternating mass and service with her and not have your father take you to afternoon mass.

I hope you will resolve this soon, honey. And try to talk wih her. Good luck and hugs.
Date: 2017-04-25 10:13 am (UTC)

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From: [personal profile] tamarelmensdorp
Sorry I didn't reply earlier.

That sounds like a big difference and it's a shame that service makes you feel so uncomfortable while you still want something.

I'm glad you and your mother are talking again and I hope you'll find a workable solution.


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